About Tara Gallagher

You know what sets you off.

Maybe it's one person.  
A certain tone of voice.  
Someone being annoyed with you.  
Having to say no.  
A conversation you know you need to have.  

You might even know exactly why you react the way you do.  

And still, when it happens, you react.  

You go quiet.  
You overthink everything afterwards.  
You say yes when you wanted to say no.  
You get defensive.  
You shut down.  
You completely lose your shit over something that seems tiny.  

That's the kind of thing I work with.  

I'm Tara Gallagher, ICF & CPD accredited Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach, specialising in narcissistic abuse.  

I work with the emotional charge attached to triggers and patterns through the nervous system.  

Sometimes we're working with something happening in your life now.  
Sometimes what's underneath it goes much deeper.  

My work can go as deep as the trauma that's there.

This work isn't something I learned from a textbook.

I grew up in a house where safety meant staying quiet.
Keeping the peace.
Not taking up too much space.
Not making things worse.

I became very good at noticing everyone else and not very good at noticing myself.
I didn't know that was trauma.
I just thought that was who I was.

And those patterns didn't disappear when I grew up.
 
I carried them with me.
Staying quiet.
Overthinking.
Second-guessing myself.
Paying far too much attention to how everybody else was feeling.

For a long time, I didn't realise how much of my life was being shaped by things I'd learned to do to feel safe.

Eventually, I reached a point where I didn't want to live like that anymore.

I wanted to be free to be me.
And when I started seeing some of those patterns beginning to show up in my children,

I decided they were going to stop with me.

Today, this is the work I do my clients every day.

A lot of the women I work with already understand themselves really well.  

They've read the books.
They've had therapy.
They know where some of their patterns came from.  
They still get triggered.  
They still react in ways they wish they didn't.  
They still find themselves repeating patterns they understand perfectly well.  

Because understanding why something happens doesn't necessarily remove the emotional charge attached to it.  

And that's the part I work with.

How I work

I work through the nervous system with the emotional charge attached to what's triggering you.  

Depending on what you need, that might involve REMAP, Brainspotting, breathwork, somatic work, coaching or a combination of them.  

You don't need to know which one you need.  
You tell me what's happening.  

We start there.  
Sometimes we're working with one very specific trigger.  
Sometimes there are patterns that show up all over your life.  
Sometimes you know there's trauma underneath what's happening and you're ready to work with it.  
Sometimes you're nowhere near ready.  

I won't take you deeper than you need or want to go.

I work with both women and men, online worldwide and in person from West Sussex. Some of my groups are specifically for women, but much of my work, including 1:1 coaching, breathwork and Silent Somatic Movement, is open to both.

You don't need to understand everything that's happened to you before we begin.  

You can come to me knowing exactly what keeps triggering you.  

Or you can come saying, “I don't really know what's going on.

I just know I can't keep feeling like this.”  

We can start there.

Ready to work together?

If there's something you keep getting triggered by, a pattern you understand but still find yourself repeating, or you know there's something you want to work through, email me at hello@taragallaghercoaching.co.uk to apply for 1:1 coaching.
 
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